Tuesday, June 09, 2009

Bhai mere, we've come a long way

My brother leaves today to go back to his Army way of life. In the month he’s been here, he and I have not fought even once. Not once have we squabbled over the TV remote. There has been no excessive use of magic phrases -- shut up, get out, fuck you. Instead, we have grown to converse. We now say hi to each other. (Sometimes even Goodnight. ) The barking and spewing rabid abuses at each other for no real reason have almost completely stopped.

We still talk rubbish; words for the sake of the sound, reminders of our childhood, noises we used to make, phrases that tickled us, all that. But we no longer bash each other up in between this foolishness. He doesn’t use his strength to overpower me and bend my fingers till they go numb. I don’t shriek for either parent to intervene whenever he yanks my hair. We don’t raise voices and bang on bathroom doors -- dhaad dhaad dhaad! I don’t snap. I don't call him a jobless dodo with no life. We've grown up, looks like. And we're still thick, I'd say, having come around to being relatively normal, behaving rationally, dispensing advice, and discussing love lives and heartbreaks. It’s cool. I like this restrained temper avatar of ours. Zen in our stupidity but the maturity is new.

Here’s a shot of the card I gave the moron on his 25th birthday last year.

(I used a marker to prefix the 2...)

Tsk. I miss him already. Sometimes it's easier to say bye when you're bitter.

4 comments:

Indyeah said...

*sigh*
good ol days ...hitting, scratching, spitting..
tell me about it..
story of my life too:)
and a bro who too wears the olive green after Dad..

same age..same stories..same heartache when he came for the first time and went back to the unit...

Han said...

I can really relate. Nonsense/gibberish/rubbish talk was a way of life for my sister and I.

We stopped fighting almost as soon as I left for college.

Perakath said...

Haha... "Dhaad, dhaad, dhaad!" cracked me up!

Brilliant idea for a bday card, that.

Rajiv said...

hahahahahaha
wo jagjit singh ki gazal hai na.......aluta do bachpan.
bahut yaad aate hain wo din yaar
my both siss r married ab so bahut yaad aate hain kabhi kabhi wo din.aaj fir aap ne yaad dila diye.THNX nd wo bhi lot wala :P